I can try to remember when gotten to the altar for blessings over marriage with marital vows, questions are been asked which should be answered out of sincere heart...
"Out of your free CHOICE AND WILL did you take ....... as your wife or husband?" 

Little can I imagine why we compel and make our own choice over the to be a dweller of the marriage.

Marriage is believed to be out of the inner heart choice not out of the name advice to push people into what is against their choice of heart.

Marriage should be bathed by personal conviction and happy heart choice and not against one will all in the name of respecting someone.

"Your decision determines your condition"

With my insightful view of many homes in regret, they ventured into marriage out of the avoidance of what people say but now they are the top talk of the home who is not enjoying the purpose of marriage. 

As Christians, we have to come to the understanding of this that whoever we choose to marry should not be because they asked us to marry him or her. Whatever comes out of the marriage, you bear the 100 percent level of it.

One of the popular problems we face is COMPARISON in our society today, that it works for A does, not mean it would work out for B. Likewise that it does not work out for A is not a concrete certainty for believing that it would also not work out for B.

Marriage is a journey of choice and nothing else.

Many Servants of God have led many into a wrong and everlasting hurt of marital choice, letting aside the word of God in 1 Samuel 16:7 "But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart." Why do servants of God now conclude and impose on members whom to marry because of their outward attributes forgetting that they can be copied and acted for a while?

Many have gone into wrong marriages because of the pressure from Parents, Family, Elders, and friends but today, they are dealing with it alone with no help than looking for the mercy of God.

Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.2:19 And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.2:20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and every beast of the field; but for Adam, there was not found a help meet for him.2:21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof.2:22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman and brought her unto the man.2:23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman because she was taken out of Man.2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.2:25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. 

God is in no form or way forced or imposed on Adam to marry Eve but Adam himself identified and out of a free heart choice said she is the bone of his bone.

To youths I write, let your marital choice be based not on (2nd) second party decision but from the deepest of your heart.

To fathers and mothers, I write, the choice of life partner should be made by youths, not by our parents. Many of us have sent our children into everlasting marital pain and sorrow because of tribe, culture, town, and even funny to mention completion, the choice of whom to marry and whom not should be out of a free heart choice. 

Guiding us from making a wrong martial choice is the bible enjoins us all to seek good counsel but the place of making the choice mandatory over yours might dangerous than we ever thought of later. The world is changing every day and we have to understand that your generation is different from this our generation of so much need for the intervention of God.

On a final note, I place before you a change of heart and a hardened heart, choice well. I urge you to choose a change of heart for regret not to be the master of the later days to come.

You bear alone in marriage the consequences of your decisions.



Written by
Bro. Emmanuel.  O